the real story

so i got my house guest to tell all last night and it was really good for us. i think this christmas could be nice after all. she’s a very private person so naturally it was hard for her to tell me but when i told her that we were having problems conceiving she broke down and gave me her story. she and her husband tried for a year, went to the doctor and found out they have male fertility issues. over the next year, she had eggs extracted twice and after 30 eggs over two surgeries, they only came up with one high quality embryo. they crossed their fingers and put the sucker back in and it stuck and they are finally pregnant! she said, had it been 10 years ago, they would surely not have been able to have a biological child with the issues they had. one of the more difficult things for her to accept was that she was perfectly healthy and fertile, but as the carrier of the baby and a husband with male infertility, it was she as the woman, who had to endure the drugs and hardship on her body to have a child. as hard as it is for me to not have been able to get pregnant this year, i fully appreciate and admire the truly courageous battle this woman went through to have a biological child. Now knowing what she went through, i feel good about her being at my house for christmas and being able to celebrate her victory over infertility with her. i also feel lucky that i have finally got someone that i can talk to about this stuff who understands how it can feel to fight through this stuff…from experience. i’m only starting on this journey and i don’t know how long it’s going to take me and how far i’ll have to go to get this baby but i’m ready to fight and do whatever it takes.

i want to congratulate all the women out there who are ttc for another year of staying strong and fighting for something you want badly and wish you all the best for the holidays and for the new year. if you’ve had a rough year in 2008, keep your head up, take another giant step forward, move on and turn over a new leaf. it’s a new year and a new start. lets all hope for the very best in 2009. i know i do….