A good friend of mine just got married and she’s already non-stop talking about having babies. Our conversation today went something like this:
Her: You know, we’ve started having sex without protection and hopefully we’ll get pregnant really soon. We decided to start trying sooner than later because god forbid, we have problems.
Me: Oh you mean, have problems like me?
Her: ….well…yeah. It must be frustrating. Have you tried using OPKs?
Me:…are you fucking kidding me?
Her: Well, have you?
Me: COME ON! We are so fucking past that. It’s been a year and a half! Why don’t you try for three months and not get pregnant and then multiply that frustration by 3,000 and even then you still won’t understand how FRUSTRATING this is. It’s not just frustrating, it fucks up your life.
Her: Well, let me know if there’s anything I can do. I could give you some tips on how to spice up the sex.
Me: ………
On a separate note, I just popped what hopefully will be my last dose of Femara. Whatever the end result of this cycle is, we’re moving on from here after this. Hooray! I also got a job offer today. Hooray! Maybe my luck is starting to turn around. I really hope so.
i love it whsn people ask if we’ve tried opks yet, ummmmm, really?i want to say “i’ve been seeing a specialist for a year but it’s so weird because none of us ever thought of that!!!!! not me, not my obgyn, not my re, thank-you!”
i am 14dpiui today, i guess i’ll test tomorrow or friday, but i know it’s going to be negative. my luteral phase is only longer this cycle because i’m on progesterone for the first time, last time it was pretty short.
hiya… i’m kinda inspired by ur blog 1000s of miles away… in india… gonna start mine soon too.. just dont hv the patience/ courage to pen down my ttc journey…
great to know u got a job… believe me when i say pg comes to you when u dont chase it… its happened to me as well..
anyways cheers and good luck….
Ugh. You certainly get a glimpse of how ignorant people are once you start talking about this stuff. A friend of mine struggling with IF had her aunt tell her she needs to go church more if she wants to get pregnant.
If aunts were in wills, she’d be out.
This is one of your best posts ever. I cracked up out loud when you replied “are yuo fucking kidding me?!”.
I’ve totally been there.
You seriously have no idea how much this post meant to me. The part where you wrote: “Why don’t you try for three months and not get pregnant and then multiply that frustration by 3,000 and even then you still won’t understand how FRUSTRATING this is. It’s not just frustrating, it fucks up your life.”
I’ve been really feeling frustrated. I think its because of my PMS symptoms but I really have been having this thought: TTC is fucking up my life.
Sometimes I feel really alone but when I read what you wrote I remember that what I’m feeling is normal….. as normal as it gets I guess…. in the world of an infertile.
I hope you really told her all of this as is, without any sugar coating. If I have to hear one more fucking newlywed say, “I’m SOOO worried, we tried one time and nothing happened, this is SO hard.” I just want to punch someone.
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Hello! I just stumbled onto your blog and I love it. This post in particular is sublime. I really hope the third is the charm. jones